psa

joshnewberry:

if an autistic person is doing something thats bothering you, dont try to avoid telling them. dont be subtle and give hints or try to ignore us in hopes that we’ll realize what we’re doing is bothering you and stop. we won’t. most of us do not pick up on hints like that and will not make a connection between you suddenly ignoring us or being upset with us and the thing we were doing that upset you. 

and do not suddenly get fed up and snap at us out of nowhere because your hints aren’t working. we are not purposely trying to hurt you or intentionally ignoring your feelings, we literally are not realizing that what we are doing is upsetting you. snapping at us just makes us feel bad and embarrassed

if an autistic person is doing something that bothers you, tell them directly. you don’t have to be mean or harsh, just let us know that it’s upsetting you and that youd like us to stop. it’s 1000x easier than trying to be subtle and drop hints that we will never pick up on