-Don’t assume oppressed people are filled with hate and bitterness regarding their oppression.
-Don’t assume talking about oppression or activism regarding oppression comes from a place of hate and bitterness.
-Don’t take it personally that you are on the oppressor side
-Don’t make oppressed people confirm that you are a Good One
-Don’t act like things are different now (or rather, different enough to be acceptable)
-Check your privilege, stay in your lane
-If you think you know enough about that particular system of oppression to offer a definitive conclusion (race, gender, wealth, etc), take a moment to be like “oh shit, no I don’t.”
What anti self dxers don’t understand is that like
You can only be diagnosed with something is it causes “significant distress” in your personal or social life.
I know that one of my first psychs was really cool and told me a list of things that I probably had. She was talking about how she didn’t feel the need to officially diagnose me because being officially diagnosed with that stuff would probably make my life a whole lot worse than it already was at that point (for example, having an official diagnosis for my mild psychotic symptoms would put a stigma on me that she felt would make it harder for me to get jobs, etc.). She told me the list of things because she figured that it might help me to know how to explain why I do things and to be able to find resources to cope with those things.
When I brought up self diagnosis to my most recent psych, and explained what that first psych told me, she agreed and said that it is important for people to be able to understand why they do things, even if it’s not significant enough for a professional diagnosis. She said that even though I’m not officially diagnosed with trichotillomania, she knows that I have it. She didn’t bother diagnosing me with it because I’m already on an antidepressant that is used to also treat ocd symptoms. She said that it is ok for me to tell people that I have trichotillomania because otherwise they might get concerned with my picking?
When I mentioned that I have a lot of friends with self dxed bpd, her response was similar. She said it’s good that they are able to see those traits in themselves and put a name to it, and also connect with others who have similar experiences. She said that it’s especially a good idea because it helps them to learn to cope BEFORE they get to a point where they have trouble dealing with those symptoms.
So yeah I know it’s classist and racist to be against self dx, especially since medical care is extremely inaccessible to the poor and to people of color.
But it’s also just straight up incorrect to be against it. Besides the fact that people like me (who have no words to describe what happens in my brain other than the words that I’ve heard neurotypicals use to describe similar things) need a baseline to be able to explain what we are experiencing to psychs and also to open doors to diagnosis since psychs will usually go to depression and anxiety first if they do not know more, I’ve been told by two different psychs that self dx is a good and healthy practice.
(Not to mention that professional diagnoses are basically like, you tell a psych your symptoms, they compare your symptoms to their knowledge of various disorders, they pick one that seems to fit most of them, they put you on medication for it, you come back later to see if the medication is helping, if it is not they put you on different medication, if it is but not very much they increase the dosage… It’s not as streamlined as people think it is…)
I guess it’s just super weird to me that to some people, a few instances of violence during a protest is enough to delegitimize an entire movement, but piles of evidence showing sustained corruption and racism and literally hundreds of civilian deaths per year at the hands of the police is still not enough to delegitimize the police.
hey guys, this is a bit of a warning. this can be for when you want to rant about something or when youre mentioning someone who is toxic or dangerous. i thought a lot more people knew this but it turns out they dont.
say for example i were to make this post
the “
ghhhhhhdzdgh” can be interchangeable. you could say that you dont think a youtuber or a tumblr user is all that great. a pretty innocent opinion that isnt tagged so no one will see it, right??
well if i post this, search
ghhhhhhdzdgh and go onto newest its a different story
thats right, you dont even have to tag things anymore for them to come up in searches! another lovely feature put in by tumblr which, on my old blog, lead to me getting death threats when i made an untagged post about a tumblr user, which lead to that tumblr user liking it and 3 death threats in my inbox and one person saying they knew where i lived and they would get me on my morning commute. pretty dangerous stuff, right?
thats not all, even when you put slashes in the word it turns up
but if you put dashes it luckily doesnt
so the reason for this post??? if youre making a personal post without tagging about someone else slashes wont keep you safe from some really sad people who want to make others feel bad from finding it, put dashes instead and it wont come up in the search. its a shame that people have to do their best to stay safe on their own private blogs but we’ve already worked out tumblr doesnt give a shit. this though should hopefully help that little bit more
No, seriously. If you don’t have money to help out an artist financially, the second best thing is to reblog all the things you like. While liking it does tell the artist that “hey I really like this!” It does jack shit because the only ones who will see that are me and you.
Why do you think there are so SO many posts made by people that are literally summed down to “please reblog my artwork I need the notes!”? Because no one reblogs artwork. Unless you’re a ridiculously popular blog with thousands of followers, you’ll only end up getting 1 or no reblogs.
SO HELP OUT ARTISTS AND PLEASE REBLOG OUR ART, BECAUSE WE REALLY NEED THE VIEWS ;V;)/
THIS IS ALSO VITAL FOR AUTHORS/WRITERS!!
As my buddy devilishkurumi has said many many times, author visibility is unfortunately LEAGUES below visual artist visibility because fic takes MUCH more time and effort to consume.
If you read a fic and you decide you really love it or even liked it a little, please reblog it! Visibility for all artists!!
Gender euphoria is a concept that was made to be the opposite of gender dysphoria and describe the strong feeling of happiness that trans people experience when they’re being treated as their true gender. For some people, this feeling can be an indicator of being trans.
Please reblog to support the use of this term!
PROMOTE GENDER EUPHORIA
OKAY BUT FOR REAL, THIS IS INCREDIBLE. This is my first time coming across this term and I cannot even begin to explain how happy this makes me. Gender euphoria fits my experience so much better than gender dysphoria, a term I came across CONSTANTLY when trying to figure out who I was.
Throughout my life, I never had any noticeable dysphoria. I didn’t feel I was stuck in the wrong body and I wasn’t terribly self conscious about my chest. It wasn’t until I was in a group webcam chat that I even began to consider I might be trans.
Someone “mistook” me for a boy…and they were fairly confident about it too. Others in the chat corrected them, but it wasn’t until I told them myself, ‘Oh, yeah, I’m a girl.’ that they accepted it. But the thing that clicked in that moment was this alien feeling of absolute JOY being recognized as a boy. It honestly took me off guard. The further I went along in life, the more I yearned for and sought out retail workers that would call me sir and comments from my brother saying I look like a guy in photos. One time I was sick and someone said my voice was deep enough to be a guy’s, and suddenly, I could not stop talking. Those little things just made me so happy.
But for the longest time I doubted myself, and one of the reasons was because of the term ‘gender dysphoria’. From everything I was reading online, it seemed to me that gender dysphoria was the ONLY way you could be trans. And that screwed me over for a long time. I doubted myself a lot and even started to hate myself a little bit because I could’t let the idea of myself being trans go. (it also didn’t help that I was genderfluid, with an occasional lean towards being female, but that’s a whole ‘nother confusing addition to the pile of self doubt.) I eventually said screw it, I’ve had these feelings for long enough and strong enough, but it wasn’t a fun process getting to this point.
I guess what I’m trying to say with this incredibly condensed story of my life, is that gender EUPHORIA should be just as widespread as gender DYSPHORIA. It would help so many people like myself who were so confused for so long.
This is great, bc I was just reading a string of posts that insisted, in so many words, that if you don’t experience gender dysphoria, you’re not trans and have no right to speak about trans issues.
And it just fucking kills me, this bizarre bullshit where we want to make each other suffer ENOUGH to be welcomed, to be able to say something as simple as “I am trans” without being challenged to a fight by other trans people.
It’s this fucked up cycle of abuse where trans people are rejected and held to extraordinary arbitrary standards by cis people, and then turn around and get their revenge by doing the same thing to the next ones to come out.
Where we internalize the foul, unacceptable treatment we get from therapists and doctors, and even from friends and family, and decide that that must be okay and must be what we’re supposed to be doing to trans folks.
I am starting to see it in the autistic community too. I worry, when I see people talk about how much they suffer from autism and sort of defining it by their suffering, that they will be the next ones to turn around and say “You don’t hate this enough, you don’t suffer enough with it, you are out.”
Particularly when the “you have to get a professional diagnosis like me” folks come out. Because that argument often seems to include some element of “you self-dxers just want to be special and different and you don’t know how hard it is” – which is just what the trans people who are so emphatic about the importance of dysphoria seem to be saying.
MENTALLY ILL WOMAN TASED TO DEATH WHILE SHACKELED, BEATEN, AND HANDCUFFED
Natasha Mckenna, a mentally ill woman who died after a stun gun was used on her at the Fairfax County jail in February, was restrained with handcuffs behind her back, leg shackles and a mask when a sheriff’s deputy tasered her four times, incident reports obtained by The Washington Post show.
Six members of the Sheriff’s Emergency Response Team, dressed in white full-body biohazard suits and gas masks, arrived and placed a wildly struggling 130-pound McKenna into full restraints, their reports state. But when McKenna wouldn’t bend her knees so she could be placed into a wheeled restraint chair, a lieutenant delivered four 50,000-volt shocks from the Taser, enabling the other deputies to strap her into the chair.
Minutes later, she stopped breathing. Days later, she died.
me: (is feeling depressed)
tumblr post: drink some tea!! get a plant!!! luv u!! uwu
me: (though that post didnt help me. im not going to trash & mock it. because everyones self care is different and those cute positivity posts actually help alot of other people)
I am DESPERATELY trying to inform everyone that IT IS ALREADY UNCONSTITUTIONAL TO KILL UNARMED FLEEING FELONS/SUSPECTED FELONS
In the 1984 case Tennessee v. Garner, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled 6-3 that killing an unarmed fleeing felon (and even SUSPECTED felon) is unconstitutional.
This ruling has not been overturned and is still valid and standing today!
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