What year is this
There’s a reason I hated that sappy, watery, pathetic book. Now I know what it is.
Welp, now I have another reason to detest him. (seriously his writing sucks)
Tag: important
It’s okay to change your identity. It’s okay to discover new and different versions of yourself and it is okay to move forward and completely change your identities as they come and go and are. To be human is to be fluid, to change. You are not invalid for doing so.

Yeaaaahhh…
Marriage equality is cool and all, but uh…
Trickle down equality, yo!
Yay that marriage equality is going to be a done issues, but can we focus on trans rights for a change? Or workplace equality? Please?
i always see advice to artists from abled guys thats like “draw every day even on the days where you feel totally uninspired and like you cant even pick up a pencil” and i actually think that advice sucks and is terrible because some of us will spiral out of control into horrible depressive episodes if we force ourselves to draw on days where we feel terrible and end up with something less than spectacular so my advice to artists is “take breaks and love yourselves”
ok here’s advice from a disabled guy:
if you are living on a tight spoon budget, you have to make hard decisions about your priorities, and the world is a massive spoon vampire that is always trying to drain you of precious Can. there will be days — weeks — months — when the demands of simply staying alive, or other things that are more important to you, will not leave you enough spoons to make art.
and it is okay for other things to be more important to you! your health, your personal relationships, other hobbies/interests, etcetera. don’t guilt yourself for choosing something else over art. a lot of the really gung-ho advice comes from people who not only art for a living, they’re extremely focused by nature and have few other interests. but say you’re into drawing, and writing, and knitting, and hiking? that’s me right there and oh yeah also gardening and home maintenance, and i have pets, and i love my husband to bits and don’t want to skimp on spouse time, and fantrolls is great and i’m into minecraft and i play dnd — yeeeeah it’s not surprising that i haven’t drawn for months.
but you know what? in those months, i’ve adjusted to new medication, tried multiple treatments for my poor sick kitty, quit smoking — and a whole list of other stuff that is really quite important, and which i would not have thanked myself to skimp on.
what i’m getting at is, an abled person might be able to do all that and still draw on a schedule. a highly focused person might not even try to do most of those other things because drawing was so important to them. but doing things my way isn’t wrong, and doesn’t make me a ‘lazy artist’.
also? imma tell you a secret. you improve somewhat during breaks. it takes your brain time to process what you’ve learned by practicing, and if you’re constantly pushing and pushing, you don’t get that processing time. push a little, rest a little. you may notice that when you go back to arting after taking a break, you’re a little better than when you last drew. watch for it.
I come on here for nice break, and all I’m seeing is this ‘fuckboy’ bullshit all over my dash— It’s AAVE. End of story. Stop trying to claim otherwise.
can we talk about how white Canadians know this shit but like 20k people reblogged the post about it being “transphobic”
no fucking excuses
In general, I think we need to move away from the premise that being a good person is a fixed immutable characteristic and shift towards seeing being good as a practice. And it is a practice that we carry out by engaging with our imperfections. We need to shift towards thinking that being a good person is like being a clean person. Being a clean person is something you maintain and work on every day.We don’t assume ‘I am a clean person therefore I don’t need to brush my teeth.’ When someone suggests to us that we have something stuck in our teeth we don’t say to them ‘What do you mean I have something stuck in my teeth—but I’m a clean person?!’
Jay Smooth in his TED speech “how I learned to stop worrying and love discussing race” (via tropicanastasia)
Jay Smooth almost always a reblog
(via unrational)
Dude nailed it. We all need to work at being good. Even if we think we are.
(via jasmined)
If someone has had a name change over the course of their life then DO NOT refer to their birth name as their “real” name because they probably had really valid, personal reasons for abandoning that name and saying that is implying that the name they prefer to be called by is less valid than the one they were given and don’t identify with and you are being SO disrespectful.
“You can’t complain when other people have it worse” is a lie that people in power tell because it sets people in bad circumstances up in a competition. It means when we share our stories, we are always quietly fighting for the prize of being the worst off, and getting a tiny scrap of sympathy.
That keeps us from getting together and asking, why are our circumstances so bad and how can we make them better? It means only one person gets to complain and that person does it alone. As opposed to people working in concert to change their lives, to give each other strength and advice and encouragement.
“If more girls wanted to be scientists, there would be more female scientists”
*takes a deep breath* WE LIVE IN A SOCIETY THAT ACTIVELY DISCOURAGES FEMALE INTELLIGENCE BY PAINTING IT AS A NON FEMININE TRAIT AND SETS UP MALES TO BE IN POSITIONS OF ACADEMIC SUPERIORITY DESPITE THERE BEING NO CORRELATION BETWEEN GENDER AND ACADEMIC ABILITY thank you for your time
please dont use women’s public bathrooms, as a woman it makes me very uncomfortable to have someone with a dick using a place where im very vulnerable and if i saw you in a public bathroom id 100% be able to tell that you’re not a woman.
vivianvivisection-deactivated20:
Do you have x-ray visions that you look to peep into stalls and check the genitalia of strangers or do you just confront every non-cis looking person, ugly person and/or masculine looking person and accuse them of having a penis and therefore not being women?Are you fine with trans *men* using the *women’s* restroom because some of them don’t have penis?
What about the trans women who don’t have penis? They can have a go?
Also you’re wrong I am 100% a woman. Policing me for certain traits as not counting as womanly will blow-back on cis women, like that cis lesbian who was not allowed to use the woman’s restroom.
I dunno bout you but the idea that there are cis women out there obsessed with checking other women’s crotches if they don’t fit into heteronormative standards of femininity makes ME very uncomfortable.
In my 20 + years of life I have yet to see a single news story about a cis woman being attacked by a trans woman in a womens room
You know what I have seen though?
I’ve seen plenty of stories about US getting attacked by bigots when we use a womens room
I’ve seen news stories about us being dragged out and beaten in public by bigots while people stood around and did jack shit to help
So yeah
I really couldn’t give a fuck about what paranoid bigots think or feel about trans women using womens bathrooms
WE’RE the ones in danger when we use them, not cis women
^ realest of the real talk right there



