there’s nothing wrong with admitting you were once toxic.
there’s nothing wrong with admitting you made a couple people feel like shit.
there’s nothing wrong with admitting you fucked up and were horribly arrogant and parasitic.
there’s nothing wrong with admitting you did anyone wrong, especially if you’ve learned from it. If you’re humble enough to admit it, I guarentee there’s a bit of a good person inside of you.
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Now ask yourself…
- Have I blocked more fans of color than I’ve followed?
- Did I ever follow any in the first place?
- Do I even follow any now?
- As a white person, do I get offended when fans of color (particularly black fans) tell me my opinion about racism doesn’t count?
- Do I lash out at them for not being “respectful” enough when they correct me?
- Do I dismiss them because I think they’re rude, even though I DON’T have any business putting my two cents in?
- When racism rears it’s ugly head in fandom, do I boost the posts of fans of color, or do I write my own dissertation on the subject, even though I don’t have any fucking lived experience of racism?
- Do I regurgitate the words of black women to look “woke”?
- Do I criticism White Fandom™ while ignoring criticism of myself from fans of color?
- As a non black PoC am I contributing to anti-blackness with non critical reblogs of problematic meta, head canons, fanfic, or fan art?
- Do I reblog white washed art without negative commentary?
- Do I long for the “good old days” where people didn’t get offended by posts that are “no big deal”?
- Have I ever used the term colored?
- Have I ever used the term mulatto?
- Do I present myself as an expert on fandom racism and how bad it is?
- Am I a fucking hypocritical piece of shit who tries to malign black women because they won’t accept my tepid ass non apology?
- Do I use personal hardships or trauma as a shield against valid criticism even though one has not a goddamn thing to do with the other?
- Do I sit back and nod when fans of color make posts like this, or do I reblog them to boost them and show my support?
If you answer yes to one or more of these, you need to sit your ass down and fucking listen instead of jumping into the fandom racism discourse like you have ANY business being there Becky.
You know what’s funny about trauma? That some twisted part of you keeps trying to convince itself that it wasn’t that bad. So you’re stressed, anxious, depressed, but you keep saying “I’m overreacting” and trying to downplay it, ‘cause others had it worse.
So here, for anyone needing it, your feelings are valid. Whatever happened to you was not your fault, and you have every right to feel angry and hurt and to take as much time as you need to heal. Your experience and how you react to it is valid, no matter what.
traumatic situations often damage people’s sense of self-worth. so not feeling like you deserve to feel the pain of the damage is, actually, part of the damage.
in recovering from trauma, you can actually start feeling worse for awhile: like nerve endings regrowing, feeling and claiming the full extent of your pain is a sign that you’re starting to heal.
The United States of America is only one of two countries that has not approved and accepted the Convention on the Rights of the Child. The other is South Sudan, which has already begun the ratification process.
Among other things, the CRC ensures children under the age of 18 have the right to life, identity and name, education, freedom of expression, equal opportunity, healthcare, psychological recovery, cultural sensitivities for minority/indigenous groups, and access to information [x].
The lack of the CRC in the USA is part of the reason why it is okay to send children to abusive “camps” that attack their identity as LGBTQ+ minorities, enroll them in private schools that intentionally deny students opportunities to learn about science (particularly anatomy and sexuality), and sign away their children’s rights to the state.
It is also why juveniles in the USA can be sentenced to life imprisonment with no chance of parole, a legal implications that particularly affects people of color, especially Black and Latinx children.
The CRC also specifies that children should not be disciplined in a manner that is considered abusive, and the USA therefore does not regulate the “discipline” occurring in homes of at-risk children, even when it qualifies as mental or emotional abuse.
Due to the lack of the CRC, children can be relocated against their will (eg, deportation/trafficking) to potentially dangerous and life-threatening places, can be separated from their parents, or can be kept in isolation.
Basically, the United States, which claims to be a great champion of human rights, has consistently refused to ratify or even introduce the bill to ratify the Convention of the Rights of the Child.
Update on this (2016): USA is now the only country not to ratify the CRC. [x]
Over half of public school students are poor enough to qualify for lunch subsidies, and almost half of black children under the age of six are living in poverty. [x]
The US is one of two “developed” country with the lowest standards for child well-being (Romania is the other). [x]
16 million kids live in poverty and 138 thousand kids are homeless (2013-2015). [x]
Homelessness in children has increased by 60% in the past 6 years. [x]
In 2001, 325,000 children were at risk for becoming victims of sexual exploitation in the United States. [x]
Of all sex trafficking victims in the USA: 17% are underage girls and 10% are underage boys. [x]
this is horrifying because I’m a US citizen and I didn’t even know the CRC existed?? I thought the way children are treated under the legal system here was completely normal and standard??? literally until I read this I had no conception of anything different and now I’m trying to wrap my head around the fact that in other places it wouldn’t be allowed for my classmates to be beaten by their parents or shipped off to be made straight
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The fundamentalist homeschooling lobby HSLDA has a lot to do with this.
It’s so frustrating. It’s all about “parents’ rights” and kids pretty much being the literal property of their parents for the parents to do whatever they want with.
Shoutout to the people who are traumatized by an event that didn’t bother them at first
By something that they didn’t realize hurt them
By something that happened when they were young and naive and didn’t know what to do so they forced the memory out of their head
By something that only started affecting them recently
You are valid and I love you
don’t start dating your crush if
- the attraction is purely physical (wanting to bang them =/= romantic compatibility)
- you feel pressure to change or hide parts of yourself to get them to like you
- aspects of their lifestyle make you uncomfortable (i.e. alcohol/drug use, people they hang out with, etc.)
- they invalidate or belittle your identity or your passions (i.e. “Bisexuality means you’re confused!” “Writing can’t be a real career!” etc.)
- they never stop talking about their exes
- they only talk to you to vent their emotional baggage
- they routinely ignore you without explanation
- they’re only interested in conversations about themselves
- you put effort into getting to know them, but they don’t seem to care about getting to know you
- you constantly worry about their approval or pleasing them
no matter how much you like someone, basing a relationship around worshiping or trying to fix someone or fueling an inferiority complex is unhealthy and leaves you vulnerable to toxic and emotionally draining relationships. attraction is strong and we do dumb things when we’re infatuated with someone, but please remind yourself that your own well-being should always take priority over any potential romance and run far away if anyone, especially your crush/partner, suggests otherwise.
You have no idea how much this would have saved me a year ago sweet baby jesus BOOST!!!
oh god i should print this out
Oh, this is so important
You need to read this
If you’re unaware- if anyone follows you with MAP in their description, block and report them especially if you’re a minor- this stands for Minor Attracted Person and is basically a cover term for pedophillia
Spread the word, and stay safe out there.
What’s Happening In My Country: Turkey
People, I’m reporting from Ankara, Turkey, from my thankfully safe home… This is one of the strangest events in the Turkish history, and no one knows if it’s a real military coup, or a “fake” one organized by the government so that they can get stronger than ever. Right now, there are tons of jet planes flying above the city and bombing different places, such as the “palace” of Erdogan, the parliament, the building of the political party AKP, the national intelligence agency of Turkey.
Erdogan literally told people to get out, to the streets, and protest the coup, and “stand in front of the tanks”. And, shockingly, they did. Now, people are out in the streets, chanting “Allahu Akbar!” and attacking the soldiers. Everyone’s gone crazy, I’m so afraid that this will lead to a war.
The military took over the national channel of Turkey and forced a reporter to read out a declaration about the martial law. Now, the government has taken the channel back. The soldiers are getting arrested one by one. They declared that they had taken control of the coup, and I’m sure that everyone will consider them (the government, Erdogan, etc.) “heroes” from now on.
There are deaths, deaths of policemen, civilians… It’s scary, I’ve never experienced something like this. I don’t know how this happened, I don’t know who did this, I don’t know what’s happening and what’s gonna happen. I don’t know what kind of a country I will wake up to, if I can convince myself to go to sleep in this chaos. I don’t know if it’ll be martial law or Sharia law, or Erdogan declaring himself a dictator. I’m confused as hell.
But there is one truth: whoever did this, and for whatever reason they did this, this is not okay… I, and all the other people of Turkey, do not deserve to experience this fear, violence and chaos. Whatever happens, happens to the innocent. Let this be heard from all around the world, something strange, and something COMPLETELY CRAZY is going on. Let this be heard, this shouldn’t be forgotten. The world shouldn’t forget how a group of people literally played, and are still playing, with us like we’re toys.
In the following hours, they may cut off our internet, they may ban us from sharing the news with the world, they have done it before. For the sake of the people of Turkey, and for the sake of our world’s future;
Help us, let this be heard…
Seriously, it surprises me that people still don’t get that “whitewashing” doesn’t just mean “taking a character of color and turning them white,” but also applies to “focusing disproportionately on the stories of white people,” “glossing over or altering parts of a story to make it more palatable or make white people look better,” and “treating ‘white’ as the default race”
The fact that Disney churns out film after film after film after film about white people with a maximum of one film per ethnicity that showcases a group other than white people is whitewashing.
The fact that the story of “Pocahontas” (not her real name) has been substantially altered so that some of the white people in that story don’t look like such villains, with John Smith younger and Pocahontas significantly older, as well as recounting a popular myth of her saving John Smith from near-execution (a story John Smith made up to make himself look brave, the real Pocahontas told him to stop telling and hated him for using her to make himself look good, and he started to spread like wildfire after she died because she could no longer object) is whitewashing.
The fact that the characters on “How I Met Your Mother” are all white, and they supposedly live in New York City, but apparently associate exclusively with other white people (with the exception of Wayne Brady, who occasionally visits from out of town, and a recurring taxi driver) is whitewashing.
The fact that the Doctor has now been a white man a full twelve times in a row is whitewashing even though the character’s always been white, because the idea that there’s a character whose entire appearance can change in a matter of seconds, yet ends up white twelve times in a row by pure random chance, implies that white is a neutral default and other races are a deviation from that norm.
The fact that people get really angry at the suggestion that characters like Newt Scamander or Hermione Granger could be black because the books never explicitly say “they are black” is whitewashing.
Because that’s the thing. People often assume that when someone’s race isn’t explicitly specified, they’re white. People insist that Katniss Everdeen must be white because it is possible for them to rationalize that idea in their head. People think of white as “raceless” and every other color or ethnicity as “raced,” and that’s what we call “eurocentrism.“
And that’s the thing about whitewashing. It’s this idea that a “person” is white, and a “person of color” is black or asian or arab or latin@ or whatever they might be.
It’s why people call John Stewart the “Black Green Lantern” but just call Hal Jordan the “Green Lantern.” It’s why Miles Morales is called “Black Spider-man” but Peter Parker is just “Spider-man.” If you want to throw gender into the mix, it’s why Jennifer Walters is the “She-Hulk” but Bruce Banner isn’t the “He-Hulk.”
People think “character” is white and “character + black” is black. There is no default race. Community did a whole episode about how a truly raceless character would look something like this monstrosity:
But there’s the tricky part: Once you stop thinking of white characters as “character” and start thinking of them as “character + white,” it becomes really overwhelming how many characters are white.
I mean, I know there’s a kerfuffle over Disney Princesses right now, so let’s look at the list of official Disney Princesses, shall we? That is, let’s look at the list and include everyone’s race, not just the princesses of color:
- Snow White + White
- Cinderella + White
- Aurora + White
- Ariel + White
- Belle + White
- Jasmine + Arab
- Pocahontas + Native American
- Mulan + Asian
- Tiana + Black
- Rapunzel + White
- Merida + White
Soon to be added:- Anna + White
- Elsa + White
4 of those 13 women are women of color. All four of those women of color are different races than one another. At the moment, the number of white princesses is seven, but it’s about to go up to nine. All nine of those princesses are the same race as one another, despite a few of them being different nationalities, although most of them hail from Western Europe.
And a lot of people are saying “but they’re just accurately portraying the parts of the world those stories are set in!” First of all, the presence of a person of color has never been implausible in any part of the world, in any period of human history. Hell, a bunch of these movies were set after Shakespeare had born, lived, and died, but he still managed to write a play set centuries earlier featuring a black male lead in Italy.
Second, and most importantly, it’s not like they are being assigned a setting at random and have to accommodate it in their character designs. The people at Disney choose to set film after film after film in France and Germany and Denmark.
It’s not that those areas produce more or better fairy tales and folk tales than any of the other continents, it’s that the stories that come from those areas are the ones Disney considers universal.
In the eyes of Disney, there’s a Princess for Black little girls to look up to, a Princess for Native little girls to look up to, a Princess for Arab little girls to look up to, a Princess for Asian little girls to look up to, and nine princesses for all little girls to look up to. It’s no coincidence that in almost all promotional art featuring the “Princess Lineup,” Jasmine, Tiana, Mulan, and Pocahontas are all standing in the back, usually obscured by other
whitePrincesses’ dresses, while the blonde lady brigade stands in the front.And that is whitewashing.

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This is the job of white people and nonblack poc. Watch. Let cops know you are watching. Let the person the cops are intimidating know you are watching.
This is how to use privilege for good.
