This hasn’t been on my dash much, but on February 15th, 2015, Zander Nicholas Mahaffey, a 15 year old transgender male, commited suicide. He had a rough time at home and was constantly misgendered and yelled at. He wrote a suicide note over 3,000 words especially everything on his blog.
Please don’t forget Zander. We spread Leelah around, let’s spread Zander around. We need to stop families from murdering their transgender children.
Tag: transphobia tw
Hey guys fyi but a trans kid named Zander recently committed suicide because of the abuse from their mother.
His dying wish was to be known by the name Zander, however his mother ignored it completely and any comments on his memoir that reference to him as Zander or he/him pronouns are being deleted.
My friends are currently trying to get the tag #HisNameWasZander trending and would appreciate it a lot if you reblogged anything from this blog (ripzander.tumblr.com)
today’s video explores the horrific abuses that Leelah Alcorn and other LGBT kids are legally subjected to. prepare to feel like you’ve stepped into the dark ages.
don’t forget to sign the petition afterward.
(New Sex+: PRAY THE GAY AWAY – EXPOSED)
Remember her name: Leelah Alcorn. Her identity is being erased. She is being memorialized by her incorrect birth name. To quote Laverne Cox, “Misgendering a trans person is an act of violence.” This goes also for those trans persons who are defending Ms. Alcorn’s parents who continue to use the wrong name and pronouns. A trans GIRL died. Those who misgender her and use the wrong name are accomplices to her death.
cub2:
She’s thinking about her religion when she should be thinking about her daughter
The thing is she didn’t love her daughter unconditionally. That’s the opposite of what she did. This makes me so fucking angry because this woman clearly doesn’t understand the meaning of the words she’s saying. UNCONDITIONAL MEANS LOVE WITHOUT BOUNDS, YOU DIDNT LOVE HER YOU LOVED /HIM/ WHICH ISNT WHAT LEELAH WAS.
one of these things is not like the other.
RIP leelah alcorn
this is so fucked up.
I just want to make sure for myself as well that since her mother is planning on removing this post from her Tumblr that we make as many posts as possible documenting this so that this selfish woman does not get to erase everything that her daughter was
Fresh horseshit from Leelah’s shit mom’s shit mouth
“We don’t support that, religiously,” Alcorn’s mother told CNN Wednesday, her voice breaking. “But we told him that we loved him unconditionally. We loved him no matter what. I loved my son. People need to know that I loved him. He was a good kid, a good boy.”
This was posted just six hours ago, from an interview recorded just yesterday. In one short statement we’ve got him, him, him, son, him, he, and boy.
….She worried Wednesday that hateful messages directed toward her and her husband are making them out to be “horrible people,” she said.
Oh no you think
Her child came to her only once to talk about being transgender, Carla Alcorn insisted.
Yeah that doesn’t sound like a lie at all
I keep waiting to hear some real regret, some actual acknowledgment and respect for who her daughter was but NOPE
please understand that when you misgender a trans person and they don’t correct you, it’s not because they are okay with the pronouns you used but because they don’t want to annoy you or seem demanding. it doesn’t mean you can continue misgensering them because they “don’t seem to mind.”
[warnings for this post and included source links: buckets and buckets of ableism, especially anti-autism ableism, including uncensored slurs, mentions of abuse and murder, classism, transmisogyny, misgendering, rape apologism, and mentions of other -isms and slavery. please also note that most of the source links contain photographs of the actor in question.]
you know what? I’m pleased that the the majority of Marvel fandom has, from what I’ve seen, taken a staunchly Do Not Want attitude towards the probable casting of Benedict Cumberbatch as Doctor Strange
but I am really, really sick of the stock answer to “why don’t you want Cumberbatch to play Strange?” being given as simply “because he’s yet another white cishet dude (and Strange doesn’t need to be white)”
I mean please don’t get me wrong, I absolutely agree that the endless parade of white cishet dudes leading Marvel films is racist and boring as fuck and that casting a MoC as Strange instead would be wonderful; that is certainly one totally valid reason to be highly disappointed and frustrated with the (not-yet-officially-official-but-all-signs-point-to-highly-likely) casting of Cumberbatch, yes
but can we please, please, PLEASE – I am literally begging here – please acknowledge that the problem with Cumberbatch specifically, and the reason so many people are so upset about this rumour, isn’t only that he’s ‘another white cishet dude’
the more pressing issue is that he’s specifically a white cishet dude who has said and done some incredibly vile and disgustingly bigoted things and as a result he is a walking trigger to a sizeable amount of people
this is not just a case of, as I’ve seen people claim, “tumblr collectively deciding to turn on him just because he’s white and he’s said a few slightly problematic things and tumblr is fickle like that”
this is a man who prepared for the role of an iconic fictional monster – a literal nonhuman creature (albeit played in a supposedly sympathetic reimagining) – by watching autistic children like zoo animals (presumably without their consent) and deliberately copying their mannerisms and movement, and publicly described these children as “very upsetting” and “not fully evolved”
who, three years later, apparently has not learned at all from being called out (not nearly enough) on this vileness because he continues to reference this ‘research’ and describes a 17-year-old autistic person as “[having the] the mental age of a one and a half year old. Everything was just about bodily functions. Smell. Sexual arousal. Shitting. Whatever…”
who furthermore has, on multiple occasions, said that’s it’s ‘dangerous’ and ‘lazy’ to interpret any of his characters as autistic or otherwise neurodivergent (including Alan Turing, an actual human being posthumously widely regarded as autistic) because he’s met people with “those conditions” and it’s “a real struggle all the time” and he doesn’t want to “offer false hope for people going through the reality of it” (and also casually throws around the term ‘sociopath’ for good measure), despite the fact that the vast majority of people who headcanon characters as autistic are actual autistic people desperate for positive representation
a man who has literally said things about autistic people identical to things our abusers have said to us, identical to the things that allistic parents say to justify murdering their own children
(need I point out that a fairly large proportion of people in Marvel fandom are neurodivergent?)
a man who unabashedly proclaims that disability should be a punishment for supposed wrongdoing, that if people don’t live (his idea of) “morally decent, contributing lives” then “It makes me want to belt them, make them lame for a bit so they’re dependent on other people’s mercy…”
who said that the Edwardian British class system was “honourable” because “there was a duty of care from the top down”, and has repeatedly complained about “posh bashing” in modern Britain
who continually misgendered Chelsea Manning without even a single attempt to correct himself, and simultaneously defended rapist Julian Assange saying the sexual assault claims were “character assassination”
(and this is just the tip of the iceberg, I’m literally just picking out a few of the most clearly horrific quotes here; I haven’t even touched the countless examples of his more ‘casual’ ableism or his racism or misogyny or heterosexism or ace-erasure or fat-shaming or mansplaining or fandom-shaming… nor the fact that he apparently refused to change his surname to distance himself from his slave-trading ancestors even at his own mother’s request, merely because I can’t currently find a source for that, but I don’t doubt that it’s true)
and if you think that all that is just “a few slightly problematic things”, ignoring the countless people deeply hurt and triggered by his words and actions, then fuck you tbh
so yeah SIGH YET ANOTHER WHITE CISHET MAN, by all means complain (rightly!) about the continuing lack of diversity in the MCU, but look: I for one would accept pretty much any other boring-ass white cishet man in the role if I just never had to see and be triggered by Cumberbatch ever again, and I know there are many other people (particularly neurodivergent and disabled people) who feel the same
he’s not just ‘another white cishet dude’, the point is he’s a particularly vile one who has hurt and continues to hurt a lot of people
and can we just please, please, please stop ignoring that detail when people ask why Marvel-fandom-at-large doesn’t want him? please?
I don’t think that’s an unreasonable request
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